How long will the threats of the pandemic hang over our heads? As the days drag on, will it upend us indefinitely? Even though we try to avoid thinking about the troubling possibilities, they keep creeping into our minds, creating more stress, clouding our ability to stay focused, and leaving us irritable, angry, less effective – and tired.
It’s not a pretty picture, not one we could possibly imagine ever facing. So, when we’re confused and uncertain about the future, what are we to do? Here are some thoughts about that bothersome question.
Don’t listen to yourself. Why does it always happen when we’re trying to get to sleep at night? But that’s the way it is. What’s so upsetting is that the person who causes the anxiety and does the damage is the one who lives inside our head.
It’s time for a personal fact-checker, but neither Alexa nor Siri qualify. This is a job for someone you trust. Say to them, “This is what’s concerning me. Am I on track or off the rails?”
Look for new possibilities. The good news is that life is not a matter of choosing the right fake Zoom background to convince ourselves and others that we’re more than just OK. It amounts to more than that.
Recently, an editor sent me one of my sales articles. He had kept it until he found the right place for it. Recognizing that it had been around for about a year, he asked if I would update it. When I read it, I was shocked. In a relatively short time, the world changed dramatically and the article needed updating to reflect that.
People are no different, so it may be time to ask yourself a tough question: “Am I dated?” Think about it. What can you do to update yourself? Focus on figuring out how to revise your performance. How can you make what you do more relevant? What can you do to enhance your value?
Get better acquainted with yourself. I recall the memorable words of a motorcycle-riding English professor I knew: “If you can’t write it, you don’t know it.”
If you want to get better acquainted with yourself, jot down life experiences from your early memories to what’s happening now. Don’t just remember them, get them on paper. Write them down as they come to mind. Ideas never come all at once. If you really want to know yourself, start writing. You may like what you discover.
Be ready for the unexpected. How many times in the last six months have you heard someone say, “I’ll sure be glad when life gets back to the way it was.” Most everyone has harbored the thought. But going back might not be an option.
If we’ve learned anything from the pandemic, it’s that we should learn to keep an eye out for surprises and the unexpected.
Even though we may not like to think that everything is up for grabs because of the pandemic, it is: the way we live, work, play, learn, shop, think, do business and behave. It’s all changing. Keeping an eye out for the unpredictable will make living easier and more rewarding.
Change the picture of yourself. Add continuing uncertainty to the pervasive impact of COVID-19 and it’s more than enough to distort our picture of ourselves and crush our self-confidence.
How we view ourselves is not a given or chiseled in stone, unless we allow ourselves to look at it that way. In a wonderful essay, “Homo Sapiens: The Unfinished Animal,” physicist George Stanciu writes, “Nature gives human beings no specific way of life – no fixed occupation, no fitting dress, no appropriate emotional profile. It’s as if nature grew tired when she fashioned Homo sapiens and left this one species unfinished.”
And that’s good news. In spite of everything, what we do with what we’re given has not been written or handed to us. Our story is unfinished – and it’s in our hands.
John Graham of GrahamComm is a marketing and sales-strategy consultant and business writer. Contact him at jgraham@grahamcomm.com.
